Low Demand Parenting

Teens in distress

April 13, 2026

In this episode, I’m talking with author and therapist Katie May about something so many parents are facing—and so few feel equipped to handle: what to do when your teen is engaging in self-destructive or self-harming behaviors. Because everything in us wants to stop it. Fix it. Control it. And yet, the strategies we’ve been taught—punishment, consequences, taking things away—often make things worse. Katie helps us understand what’s actually going on underneath these behaviors, why teens turn...

Mailbag: Back to Basics with Low Demand

February 09, 2026

In this episode, I’m answering a listener question I hear all the time: What does low demand actually look like? I walk through the foundations of low demand parenting by breaking it down into a clear, practical process—using real-life examples to show how we identify what’s too hard, drop demands that aren’t doable, and increase accommodations in ways that actually bring relief. I explain how low demand isn’t about “giving up” or being permissive, but about attuning to capacity—our kids’ and...

Meeting our own needs

December 29, 2025

What if the hardest part of low demand parenting isn’t your child’s needs — but what their needs bring up in you? In this solo episode, we will explore the deep inner work beneath low demand parenting: how many of us were taught to suppress our needs, feel ashamed of them, or believe they hurt other people…and how those old messages get activated when we’re raising kids with big needs of their own. This episode unpacks why so many parents feel burned out, resentful, or stuck in a painful “it’...