Booking Overview
Metrics
Episodes: 15
Frequency: Every two weeks
Rating: 5.0/5.0
Estimated listeners: 100 - 1,000
Listener location: United Kingdom
YouTube: 103.0k subscribers
Instagram: 30.0k followers
Contact Information
Publicly listed emails
cole.paulson@gmail.com
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Host
Nyla Khan - Founder of Unbound Relating, a coaching and community platform exploring relationships, identity, and ways of living beyond conventional social scripts. She supports women who want to move beyond i...
Cole Paulson - Writer and cultural commentator who examines the stories, assumptions, and social expectations that shape how people understand relationships, identity, and ways of living.
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Recent Guest Discussions
Alexandra Kilpatrick - A Decade Of Feeld Research, Changing Language Around Desire And Identity, Ethical Non-monogamy, Dating Culture, Kink, And The Future Of Intimacy Technology.
Lauren Katalinich - Cultural Appreciation And Appropriation, Event Creation, Collaboration With South Asian Communities, Spirituality, Identity, And Navigating Disagreement.
Alex Haw - Cultural Appreciation And Appropriation, Event Creation, Collaboration With South Asian Communities, Spirituality, Identity, And Navigating Disagreement.
Sophia Rose - Shibari, Intimacy, Power Dynamics, Consent, Surrender, Neurodivergence, And The Relationship Between Kink And Therapy.
Ally Iseman - Ethical Non-monogamy, Relationship Design, Jealousy, Compersion, Communication, And The Motivations Behind Opening A Relationship.
Recent Topics
Episodes
Why Is Freedom Making Us Miserable?
September 30, 2026
We’re told that freedom is the goal: more choice, more autonomy, more ways to build a life that actually fits us. But going off-script can also come with a cost. What about everything we leave behind? In this episode, Nyla and Cole and ask what happens when breaking free from inherited rules leaves us with too many choices, too few anchors, and the exhausting responsibility of designing every part of our lives from scratch.Cole reflects on returning to the church he grew up in for the first...
Are We Too Wise to Fall in Love?
September 10, 2026
The older we get, the more we’re supposed to know about love. We know our attachment styles, our patterns, our needs, our boundaries and our dealbreakers. We learn from heartbreak. We get wiser.But can we become so wise about love that we make it harder to fall into?In this episode of Deviants, Nyla and Cole reopen one of humanity’s oldest cases: what is love, and how much can we ever really know about it?Years ago, Cole made an entire podcast trying to define love, investigating everything f...
Ten Years of Feeld: The Deviant Dating App with Alexandra Kilpatrick, Feeld Head of Research
August 26, 2026
Ten years ago, Feeld launched as a home for people exploring relationships, sexuality and desire beyond the mainstream. A decade later, what can the ways we use the "dating app for the curious" tell us about how culture itself has changed?In this episode of Deviants, Nyla and Cole sit down with Alexandra Kilpatrick, Feeld’s Head of Research and a digital anthropologist, to look back at ten years of Feeld and ask: has kink gone mainstream, or have we simply become better at naming desires that...
Frequently asked questions
How do I get in touch with Deviants?
Deviants is hosted by Nyla Khan and Cole Paulson. Its publicly listed email is cole.paulson@gmail.com. For guest bookings, the host or producer is usually the best person to reach. Podseeker helps you find direct host and producer contacts and pitch from your own inbox.
What is the email for Deviants?
The publicly listed email for Deviants: cole.paulson@gmail.com.
How many listeners does Deviants have?
Podseeker estimates Deviants reaches 100 to 1,000 listeners per episode. Only the publisher has exact numbers.
Who is an ideal guest for Deviants?
Deviants typically books working professionals with real expertise. Typical guest background: Subject-matter expertise as a relationship coach, sex or intimacy educator, ethical non-monogamy specialist, kink practitioner, dating researcher, cultural practitioner, or founder addressing unconventional relationships and social norms. Recent guests include Alexandra Kilpatrick, Lauren Katalinich, and Alex Haw.
How hard is it to get booked on Deviants?
Low. A guest with relevant expertise and a clear angle for its audience has a realistic chance.
What topics does Deviants cover?
Recent episodes cover Society, Relationships, Sexuality, Ethical Non Monogamy, and Kink. Pitch an idea tied to one of these topics and mention a recent episode.
Publicly listed emails
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